Wednesday, 5 August 2020

Fertility #3

Fertility #3
Wednesday, 5 August 2020
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On to month 4 of no progress and believe me when I say it doesn't get any easier. After my last post our clinic announced on June 10th that they were reopening for patients in a certain bracket - we didn't meet any of the requirements to be seen at that time unfortunately so we had to hang tight a little longer. Then on July 3rd they announced they could pretty much start seeing everyone again and that if we hadn't heard from them in the 3 weeks following to give them a call for an appointment and/or info. Well, 3 weeks came and went and we didn't hear a peep - I gave them a call on the 27th as advised but was then told we were on the list but wouldn't hear for another 3-4 weeks and no sooner. What we still don't know is whether we will even be given an appointment date when that phone call comes as our next step is Kals SSR procedure and I know not all clinics have restarted those due to staffing and COVID.

So, here we are, just over a week has passed and I thought I was okay until another pregnancy announcement popped up. 
That doesn't get any easier either. 
I silently cried myself to sleep last night and didn't wake up feeling much better. The ugly cry came today when I'm home alone and have time to think. No matter how happy or excited you are for someone, it never quite outweighs the heartbreak you feel yourself. We've watched people have 2 babies in the time we've tried for one. People who were never even considering having children when we first started trying have gotten pregnant and had their bundle of joy already and it hurts to watch. Your mind races with all different questions - 'why not us?', 'why do they deserve a baby more than us?', 'what if our time never comes'. I can't help but feel like we must not deserve a family of our own and it's devastating. At first I thought I was oversensitive and just bitterly jealous but as time goes on (and we're just over 3 years in now) I'm starting to realize it's okay to feel like this. I'm not a horrible cow for feeling a pang of heartache because someone else is living my dream. This journey is long and difficult, you need pure patience and every little piece of control is taken away from you. The excitement quickly disappears and I'm certain I've cried more tears in these last 3 years than I have in the other 22 I've been alive on top of that. 

For anyone else going through this I just want to say, please never feel on your own. Don't ever feel like you're wrong for feeling the way you do. Believe me, that aching feeling in your chest after seeing an announcement is real. It's okay to cry. 

I'm not sure if or when we will get our treatment but for now I just need some time to let myself feel sad because this last month has been tough. I'm also preparing myself for the possibility that when treatment does start we might not get the outcome we want anyway - either from Kals SSR or from the IVF itself. Either way, our future is in our clinics hands and all we can do is wait.



SSR - Surgical Sperm Retrieval

(All information in the blog post above is as correct as I know it to be in our area and situation)

Disclaimer: This blog post is in no way sponsored and all opinions and photographs are my own.
Friday, 10 July 2020

Aquila Rithymna Beach - Honeymoon

Aquila Rithymna Beach - Honeymoon
Friday, 10 July 2020
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*Delayed post - I wrote this post at the end of 2019 so if the timeline seems a little confusing that's why *

I'm sure every man and his dog is aware by now that we got married in September as I can't stop talking about it but I'm just so excited still. We were very lucky that we were able to go on our honeymoon straight after the wedding (literally the day after) and even luckier that we had such an amazing time whilst we were there. That's why I couldn't resist writing a little blog post about it and sharing the beautiful hotel with you all!

 

Tuesday, 16 June 2020

Celebrating a Birthday in lockdown

Celebrating a Birthday in lockdown
Tuesday, 16 June 2020
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During this crazy time, there will be quite a few people that have had to experience a birthday during lockdown. One of them being my husband. Although it wasn't ever going to be the same and there will always be chance to celebrate after the pandemic - I wanted to try my best to make it as normal as I could, or at least tolerable. Here's just a few things I did so we could celebrate at home.


* Conjuring Up Some Cash When You Need It Quick

* Conjuring Up Some Cash When You Need It Quick

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If you’re in need of money and you can’t wait until your next regular payment, then it’s likely that you’re dealing with something pretty urgent. While there are other tips you should follow to better deal with financial emergencies, here we are going to look at what you can do in order to find some cash in no time.


Time for a side hustle?

One of the most reliable ways to make money online at the moment is to find something that people are willing to pay you money for. There is a whole range of freelancing websites with people looking for others to do work for them, whether it’s writing, DIY, answering phones, or something else. The money might not be massive, but it can be an easy way to find some cash if you’re willing to commit.


See if you can sell what you don’t need

When it comes to selling things like clothes, DVDs, and the like, you usually shouldn’t expect to make too much money, quickly. Even if you use online auction sites to find eager buyers, it can take some time. However, for slightly more valuable assets, such as finding a way to sell your Rolex or tech like your phone or laptop, you can free up cash a lot sooner. There are websites that will take these off your hands more quickly, albeit at a slightly reduced price than had you sold it on the open market.


Should you borrow?

Using your credit is a very common option when push comes to shove, but it’s important to very carefully think about it. If you have built up your credit score, then you should be able to access decent interest credit cards and overdrafts that put you at least risk than some of the other options. However, if you don’t have a decent credit score, the only options available will be things like payday loans, for which the interest can be truly debilitating.


Sell your photos online

This won’t apply to everyone, of course. However, if you consider yourself something of a photographer, then there are stock image websites who may be willing to pay you for whatever images you’re willing to upload. Similarly, you can sell photos to local papers, especially for the sports section looking at local games.


Make money using your car

There are a couple of ways to turn your car into a cash-making machine. The first will take some time and effort, and that means driving with an app such as Uber or Lyft. otherwise, you can also look at car advertising if you don’t have the time to pick up what is essentially a second job. As the name implies, this means driving around with logos and marketing messages on your car, turning your vehicle into a moving billboard for cash.


Hopefully, the tips above help you find the cash that you need when time is of the essence. Just be sure that you’re thinking about the decisions you make and avoid those risky options such as payday loans that tend to capitalise on the desperate.


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Tuesday, 9 June 2020

* Organising A Killer Stag Do

* Organising A Killer Stag Do
Tuesday, 9 June 2020
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A stag do is one of the most important days of a guy’s life, and marks the end of his single life before he marries his true love. As a best man or a groomsmen, it is your mission to plan the best stag do you can for your friend, and this can include a trip away, a pub crawl, or a unique activity like axe throwing.



Today we want to take you through the important steps when planning a great stag do.

Decide who’s invited

Before you start planning a stag do you need to consider the size of the party. The number of people who come on a stag do will determine the activity and the type of party you have. If there is a small group of you, you may want to keep it lowkey in a pub, whereas if there is a larger group, an activity might be better.

At home or away?

The next thing to think about when planning a stag do is whether you will have it at home, in your local town, or away somewhere abroad. This will largely depend on the time of year and your budget. If you have a limited budget staying close to home might be a better way to spend your time but if you all have money saved up, a trip away could be a great idea.

Think budget

Budget is the most crucial part of planning any party, and what you are able to afford will determine your plans. Make sure you have a set budget for a stag do and also ensure that every member of your party can afford their share without a struggle.

Consider fancy dress


What’s better than a load of drunk guys going from pub to pub on a stag do? A load of drunk guys dressed up as fairies. Have some fun during your stag do and dress everyone up as characters or in funny leotards. The whole point of a stag do is having fun and taking the mick out of yourselves, so make the most of it today and get dressed up!

Plan out your route


The route you take on a pub crawl is going to determine the kind of night you have, and there are several ways you can choose a great route for a pub crawl. The first option is to get on a train 10 stops away from home and visit one pub at every step on the way back. It’s an easy idea and it will ensure that the more drunk you get, the closer you are to home. Another option is simply to play Russian roulette with pubs in your local area and take a random tour. This might be a bit more risky but you’ll be closer to home all night.

Be unique

Instead of a pub crawl, you could organise a unique day out for your mates. Zorbing, go karting, axe throwing… have some fun finding unique events and activities to try this year.

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Sunday, 7 June 2020

Fertility #2

Fertility #2
Sunday, 7 June 2020
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My last fertility post was back on March 1st and although there hasn't been much progress due to Coronavirus, we have managed to have a couple of appointments since then. As I left it from the last blog post - we had both had blood tests at our first consultation and then I was booked in for a ultrasound, we were then both booked in for another consultation for all of our results in one. A few bumps along the way but both of these appointments went ahead in some form so for the purpose of journaling our journey and updating anyone who's following - I thought I'd pop it in another post.


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